I am sure you’ve never been out in public with young children and been embarrassed by their behavior. Never, not you. Not your kids. But just…
Survival. Sometimes that is how we moms would define our days. Or maybe your existence is a bit smoother than survival now. But when you think about a new element being added to your busyness (AKA a baby), like many moms, you are wondering whether it will throw you over the edge.
I’ve been there… twice. Both child #3, and #4 came at a point in which I wasn’t sure I could add one more thing to my life. In fact, both of those positive pregnancy tests were followed by excitement, fear, happiness, alarm, joy, and unease. What a mix of emotions!
But surprisingly, I have survived.
Actually, I have more than survived. I have adjusted, adapted, grown, and most of all enjoyed the precious little lives of my two youngest daughters. And I’m willing to bet you will be able to say the same.
The “Unknown” Concerns
Though we know children are a blessing, and we would never take back the decision to bring them into the world — the unknown still plagues us. How will we feed one more mouth? How will I train one more child? How will I have time to do anything when I already feel maxed out? These unknown factors bombard our thoughts and often bring worry to our hearts. But we must choose to dwell not on the unknown but instead focus on what is known.
The Known Truth
Simply put: some things will change. Maybe you will have to cut back on certain activities that take up your time. Perhaps you will need to learn to live more frugally (yes, that is a word). And maybe daily life will get harder for a while. But here’s the truth you already know – it will be worth it! Every child is a gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and you will never regret having another little person at the dinner table (even if dinner time is a bit crazier).
Every time worry creeps in, remember you will be glad you have this child.
The Oft-Forgotten Truth
But let’s consider a deeper truth that you probably know, but sometimes forget.
This baby was never an “accident” or a poorly planned addition to your family. More than that, this baby is not coming at “bad timing.” Acts 17:26 affirms this truth. In this verse, Paul profoundly addresses God’s sovereignty when speaking to the philosophers of his day. He says:
“And he made from one man every nation of mankind to live on all the face of the earth, having determined allotted periods and the boundaries of their dwelling place…”
You may have to read that again to catch the implications — God determines who will be born, when they will be born, and where they will be born. That goes for this baby inside of you.
Scripture also tells us that every single baby has been intricately made specially by God. Psalm 139:13-14 says:
“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
God put together this baby inside of you. He made him or her in a unique way. And God has planned that this child make their debut into the world soon.
You WILL Survive!
So will you survive? Yes. God is not in the business of giving gifts that will destroy your life. Will it be hard? Probably… at times, in certain ways.
But, in other ways, many moms would testify that some things get easier as they have more kids. But that practicality is not the point. The main thing you need to remember is: if God determined this is the right timing for this child, he will give you all you need to be a mom.
Actually, God will give you all you need to be a good and godly mom. That is what he wants for you, and his resources for strength are in abundance. So talk to him now. Ask him for the strength you need to trust him today. Ask him for the ability you will need in the future to not just survive, but thrive as a mother of 2, or 3, or 4, or 5.